By Amna Naushad | Special to Al-Bilad Online English Daily
One of the first challenges in life to conquer is to live through teenage years without getting insane. Although bigger challenges are ahead but during teen years, it feels like the world can’t get any worse. So here I am telling you what to expect and what not too.
1. You will waste time on things that don’t matter.
Time is the most precious thing you will ever get and trust me you will waste it A LOT. But it’s okay. Because when you waste it, is when you will realize how important it is.
2. You will make countless mistakes.
Making mistakes will become your hobby. But it’s a good thing. Mistakes teach you. The more you make mistakes, the more you have the chance to learn something new. Always take your mistakes positively. They are literally your learning logs to a great experienced life.
3. You would want to grow up.
Ever since we gain conscious, the only thing we ever want is to just grow up. Get into practical life. Be independent. But this growing up comes with a heavy price. There is a huge price tag with it called expectations. Sometimes you are expected to have A grades. Other times you are expected to become doctors or engineers. If you are lucky enough and you don’t have to go through the experience of fulfilling other people’s expectations then society expects you to have a 6-digit salary, own a Ferrari, have stamps of at least 5 top countries on your passport and expectations goes on. But growing up isn’t so bad either. You come across dozens of challenges, some fun and some not so much. They all make it worth living for.
4. You try to figure out everything.
There is no right time to figure out everything. Some things just happen along the way so let it be. It may take years for you to come to decide a career choice that may be fit for you and trust me it’s alright. In life you will have to make a lot of choices, so take your time and make the right ones. Don’t rush into things just because everyone has already figured out their lives.
5. You will lose friends.
You may even lose your best friends and it may not even hurt. Why? Because it’s all part of life. People come and go. Some stay and some leave. With time you learn to cope with it. And every single thing taken from you is always replaced with something better. Hold on to it.
6. Your circle will get smaller with years.
As you grow older you start realizing less is more. You priorities change. You keep more to yourself and when you want to let go of everything, you know where to go. And with time you learn not every shoulder is for you to cry on. And not every door is to knock on.
7. You will have hobbies and interests that you thought you will never have.
If you think you can never like action movies, wait a few years you might be binge watching action movies all day long. Life is all about exploring. Don’t be afraid to try new things. You never know what you might actually like. Also, don’t be afraid to order new flavors every time you go out to eat. It may surprise you how many you will actually like.
8. You think you are mature.
Trust me, maturity hits you hard in the face. A 33 year old married working woman once told me she thought she was very mature at 25 when she got married but she didn’t even know what maturity was then. See? Maturity comes on a scale. As you grow older, you cross the scale to the top. So slow down and know that you may be still not be on the scale yet.
9. In your late teens family would matter more than anything else.
Life gets busier with age and you are left with little to no time after studies and social life for your family and this alone makes some people feel homesick although they still live under the same roof. Also family is a support system unlike any other. Be it moral support or financial. Your parents especially are your backbone. And with time it hits you hard that you need them more than they need you.
10. Future is a fairytale to you.
We all grow up thinking future is a fairytale and there is nothing wrong in believing it. To be positive in every situation is a gift not many have. But life isn’t easy and to reach to your fairytale there are many struggles. The key is to always be positive. Bring out the best from everything. Enjoy little things. Care for people around you. Don’t miss out any moment. Cherish every minute of your life. At a certain point in life you will realize being happy is also a fairytale feeling.
11. You may not be the same person you were in your early teens.
Nobody is ever the same person they were even yesterday. Some people change likes and dislikes pretty much every week. When I was a kid I wanted to be Nancy Drew (Nancy drew from the detective book series) but I guess I can’t be Nancy Drew anymore (although wouldn’t it be fun to be Nancy or Wonder Woman?)
So don’t be upset if you don’t like to read Famous Five anymore because you might be enjoying reading Agatha Christie and then you can actually be a grammar Nazi. Cool nah?
12. You will hate school.
Once you are out of the nightmare called school; you will actually miss it. Because let me tell you there is no place like school. Nobody is ever going to pamper you the way you are done in school. Nobody is very going to give your “stars” and “Excellent” on your homework. That is the only part of your life where you will see your friends daily and actually look forward to it. That is the only place where you don’t have to worry about anything even though it seems like there are a lot of things to worry. Oh Lord! I am nostalgic. Be right back; I am crying.
13. Some figure out what they want to do with life and some don’t.
Some know from the day they are born what they want to do in life and some don’t. And its perfectly normal. There can be things over things that you may like or interests you and at the right time you will figure it all out. And when you do; it will be rewarding.
14. You will realize your potential.
You will discover the super power you have to study all day long and get 4 hours sleep and barely get time to eat because life happens.